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Really enjoyed this guest—he brought a lot of insight, and I totally get where he’s coming from. For me, I needed tools that supported my real progress journey—the point where I finally broke free from the constant yo-yo dieting cycle. I agree with him 100%: this process only works when you make it your own, and when you surround yourself with like-minded people who support that path.

Years ago, I had a friend who wanted to record everything we did, hoping to show people our journey. But it always felt half-hearted. I’ve known him for over 20 years, and I’ve seen how he struggles to stick with anything long-term. It’s sad, but that experience taught me something important—sometimes you have to let people go from that chapter of your life if they’re not growing with you.

Later, I met a newer friend who, from my perspective, seemed like he was just starting out. But as I got to know him, I realized he’d been on his own journey just as long as I had. He started using one of the tools I shared and found great success with it. He brought me in as a mentor—both professionally and in our jui-jitsu training—and I’ve got to say, he’s the type of guy who goes all in. Total commitment. He’s become a great mentor, friend, and training partner in return.

That’s the beauty of making your journey your own. You can share your experiences and lessons, but they’re not the be-all and end-all. What works for me might not work for someone else. I’m constantly evolving, refining my tools, and improving how I live.

One major difference between myself and your guest: I have three kids, and I’m actively trying to be present and involved in their lives. That’s its own kind of training. Each of my kids has a completely different personality, and while I try to treat them fairly, I’ve learned you need to adapt your approach for each one to help them grow, learn, and correct course when needed.

I’ve thought about writing my experiences down more formally, but I always come back to this—they’re my experiences. They might inspire others, or they might not. But I do know what I want to pass on to my kids, and that’s what matters most to me.

That said, we are making progress together—especially when it comes to making better food choices. And that’s a win I’m proud of.

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